October 2016

A few days ago The New York Times published an excerpt from Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s soon-to-be-released memoir, “My Own Words.” It’s a sentimental piece that briefly describes her ascent to becoming a Supreme Court Justice and the necessary support she received from her husband in getting there (sadly Martin Ginsburg passed away in 2010 from cancer, he is pictured at left escorting RBG to an event). I find it rare to come across a piece that presents a logical viewpoint between balancing the need for ones own determination in reaching the top, and the immense need for partner support. Ruth does this well, and it reminds me of the importance of having a strong and committed partner who wants to help you succeed.

I am very much living through that right now being in a place where I need not only a great deal of patience as I figure this journey out, but also require near daily reminders that I’m not crazy and that I can achieve what I am setting out to do. Taking the plunge in going after what you really want, especially when it’s an uncharted path with many obstacles and no clear route to success, at times feels insurmountable. Knowing that there is someone who wants you to see you reach success, who believes that you can and you will is priceless and in my opinion, absolutely a key ingredient in accomplishing your goals. For me, this person is most often my partner, but certainly the role can be shaped by a friend, parent or sibling.

My point in sharing this, is that I feel that our world often draws harsh lines around what it means to seek a high level of success; that the person who is reaching for the top bar likely does not also seek to be nurtured. RBG’s piece struck me because she was so boldly sharing her need for both the highest position a lawyer can hold as well as a fulfilling partner relationship.

Read her essay, “Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s Advice For Living,” here. 

Feature Image via CNN.